The Law of Attraction is promoted as the ability to attract into our lives whatever we are focusing on. Its popularity is in large because it states you can get the fancy car and get the money and get the big house. I can see the pull of this for adult children. It is giving us a sense of having power that was lacking in our childhood. As a child we focussed on being saved either because our parents came to their senses and took their responsibility for caring and nurturing for us seriously, or we were saved by a kind teacher or a neighbour. It never happened. But now we have been get the keys to the kingdom.
It is pay-us-back time.
What this thinking reveals is that adult children are focussed on the past and recreating or making up for it and that achieving this is their life purpose. If they “make it” – get the super job and its trappings – they do it to “show them”. On the other side there are adult children who feel they are not able to meet their basic needs – a home and the funds to run it – without the assistance of supernatural powers.
In both cases the focus, the purpose is tilted backwards. Thus our actions are futile. No action in the present can make up for or change the past. Thinking so keeps us vulnerable and unproductive as we try to serve two masters: the past and present.
Having a purpose in life is central to health and well-being in everyone. It anchors us to the world and to life giving us meaning for why we exist, what we are here to give to the world. Yet we must accept that purpose, life, we have limitations as well as access to productive powers. We are no longer victims – an abused vulnerable child living with dysfunction - but we are not a super hero – a God like deity who can go back into the past in our fancy car and physically rescue that child and take it to our fancy house, either.
So we accept our vulnerability. Now as adults we are still subject to external locus of control but this is distributed fairly, it is the “whim” of the Gods, God, the heavens or some other power. We detach from outcomes and acknowledge sometimes things will go the way they should. We accept our present purpose can change due to external circumstances. Doing so gives us flexibility and resilience which is a form of power because we do not break when things do not go our way.
For balance we attach ourselves to our internal locus of control by having a clear sense and a conviction that now we can work towards creating a life of our own design, a life with meaning beyond the material or the superficial and beyond the painful memories. We move beyond resentment and a need for revenge and focus on what we want to give to the world. Though staying focussed, we also understand as time passes our present purpose may change.
So, to get the results we want using the Law of Attraction we have to clarify the core of our present purpose: what it is we want to give to others. This clarity will allow us to see the myriad of opportunities and the different choices now available to us as adults. Doing this shifts our focus on what we are able achieve from a vantage point of acceptance of our vulnerability and our power. This is how we serve our inner child and our adult selves.